In the world we live in, burnout and depression are often perceived as signs of weakness or sensitivity. However, the reality is quite the opposite. In my personal journey through two burnouts, I discovered that the strength it takes to endure such challenges is immense, and the stigma surrounding mental health needs to be debunked.
My second burnout was an even more formidable battle than the first, prompting me to delve deep into understanding why it happened not once but twice. The turning point came when I stumbled upon the book “Depressive Illness – The Curse of the Strong” by psychiatrist Tim Cantopher. This insightful read shed light on the misconception that mental health struggles indicate weakness and sensitivity.
Cantopher outlines nine characteristics common among individuals grappling with mental health issues, and as I read through them, it felt like he was describing me. These traits, which I had perceived as virtues because they were valued by patients, were, in fact, contributing to my burnout. Let’s unravel these nine characteristics:
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High Responsibility: Often seen as reliable, those prone to burnout carry a heavy burden of responsibility, sometimes beyond what is healthy.
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Perfectionism: Striving for excellence can lead to burnout when the pursuit of perfection becomes relentless and unattainable.
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Highly Conscientious: While being conscientious is admirable, excessive conscientiousness can lead to a constant state of stress.
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Highly Sensitive: Sensitivity, though valuable, can make individuals more susceptible to the pressures of their environment.
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Excessive Emotional Commitment: Investing too much emotionally, especially in a demanding profession, can deplete one’s mental resources.
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Denial of Vulnerability: The belief in invincibility and an unwillingness to acknowledge vulnerability can contribute to burnout.
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Inability to Delegate: Reluctance to delegate tasks can lead to an overwhelming workload and increased stress.
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Compulsion to Achieve: The constant need to achieve, while driving success, can also be a breeding ground for burnout.
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Lack of a Support System: Isolation and lack of a robust support system can intensify the impact of burnout.
Cantopher emphasizes that without a change in mindset, workplace, or life situation, repeated burnouts can occur, each more challenging than the last. Continual burnout can even lead to chronic illness.
Understanding that these traits, often seen as positive, can contribute to burnout is the first step toward breaking free from the stigma associated with mental health issues. It’s crucial to recognize the strength it takes to confront and overcome these challenges, and that seeking help is a sign of resilience, not weakness. Let’s collectively debunk the myths surrounding burnout and champion a culture that prioritizes mental well-being.
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